YOUR STORY · A PRIVATE MEMOIR

Beyond the accounts and the passwords — what you'd want them to remember.

"What I want my children to know — even if I don't get to tell them in person — is that the small days were the real ones, and they were enough."

The pages of your story

14 ENTRIES · 6 CATEGORIES · 38 PHOTOS · 6 RECORDINGS
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Life timeline

A chronological sketch of your life — events, people, places that shaped you. 11 milestones so far.

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Family tree

Living relatives, ancestors, and what you remember of them. Helps Maya and Noah keep continuity.

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Values letter (ethical will)

The principles you'd hand down. Written once; edited every year on your birthday.

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Family recipes

Grandma's pasta sauce, the way mom made eggs. With photos and short stories of when you ate them.

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Photos with captions

38 images. Each caption is the bit only you'd know — the joke, the smell, the year.

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Voice & video archive

Recordings of you reading favorite books to the kids. Imperfect, real, irreplaceable.

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Your timeline (sample)

1988

Born in Madison, Wisconsin

Eldest of three. My mother was a midwife; my father taught geography.

2006

Started college at NYU, dropped out at 19

Best worst decision I ever made. Started designing books at a small press in Brooklyn.

2011

Married Sam Whitfield, BPL rooftop

34 guests, his dad's brisket, my dress was secondhand.

2013

Maya was born

Sept 4. Eight pounds two ounces. My favorite human.

2017

Started Whitfield Studio with Hiroshi

Three clients, one rented desk, no idea what we were doing.

2018

Noah was born

Aug 3. Took us 16 hours. Worth every second.

2022

Lost my father

The reason this app exists.

2026

Started the LovedForward plan

Promised myself I'd never make anyone I love sort through what I sorted through.

VALUES LETTER · LAST EDITED ON MY 37TH BIRTHDAY

What I believe

Be kind on purpose. Most people are doing their best from where they're standing. Decide once that you'll assume that, and you'll be wrong sometimes, and you'll still come out ahead.

Boring is underrated. The boring routines — sleep, walking, calling your sister — are the foundation. The dramatic things take care of themselves.

Money is a tool, not a scoreboard. Use it to widen the floor — health, education, time with people you love. Resist using it to raise the ceiling on things you don't need.

Tell the truth, especially to yourself. Especially when it's unflattering. The cost of pretending is always more than the cost of admitting.

Do good work. Then close the laptop and come home for dinner.

Mistakes & what I learned

A short list of the times I was wrong, what I would do differently, and what I'd tell a younger version of myself.

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People who mattered most

My mother, my father, my husband, my sister, my friend Yara, my first boss Mr. Tomás.

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What I want my children to know

Released to Maya at 18 and Noah at 18 — or earlier if Sam decides they're ready.

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